Thursday, 12 April 2012

Leaving isn't always easy

When I sat at the kitchen table at my mum’s and told her that I’m coming to Australia for a year, she said to me I would find a man before I left. And how right she was! When I left home and my loved one in February I cried and my heart ached. I knew I had to leave and live my dream or I would forever blame the other person for not making my dream come true. Leaving never used to be hard for me, this time it really was. After the first week I got used to missing my loved one. Daily text messages and mails were the way of communicating. It was easier for me because I had all these new things over here to experience. But it was too hard for him to stay and have a daily life without me around, so he broke up with me. I cried and felt more miserable than I could have thought possible. But life is what it is. At least I have my dream to live with. And he wanted me to live my dream.
   And this feels like a dream. Sometimes I almost have to pinch myself to know this is real. I’ve dreamt of this for so long that sometimes it feels unreal to really be here. For so long I was afraid to leave the safety of steady income and home. Now I just keep on thinking why I waited for so long? I love it that I can do whatever I want to. I’m not tied to a job or an apartment. I’m free to leave places when I feel like it. I can choose to find a job in the outback or just work for my accommodation on an island. As long as I have a little bit money to travel, nothing else seems to matter. And I know that if things go badly I can always get a flight back home.


There’s a saying that home is where the heart is. And for me it seems to be true. I’m home here. I hardly ever miss any of my stuff (at least not yet!) I left behind or an actual apartment to live in. I have everything I need in my backpack. I could even send some of my things back to Finland or just get rid of them, can’t really make the decision what to do with the things I don’t seem to need. Maybe after carrying them for a while I’ll fed up and just leave them somewhere, hopefully. At least my backpack would be emptier then! :D


After spending three days in Sydney at my arrival to the country feeling really lost and belonging nowhere I was so happy to arrive in Port Macquarie. I didn’t even mind the walk to the hostel from bus station. And how wonderful it was to arrive there and see people who remembered me from my previous visit when my sister was staying there over a year ago! It felt like being home away from home. I was still lost and really didn’t know what to do or where to go, so I spent a month doing almost nothing.
   After freezing temperatures in Finland the warm weather and the sun was a wonderful change. It was wonderful just walk along the beaches and bake in the sun. When I left I was happy to see new places but also sad to leave wonderful people behind. When you spend a month in one place you get to know people and you get used to seeing them every day. I wish I can go back there for a short visit before I return back to Finland.
   I have many good memories from Port Macquarie and I don't regret staying there for a month. Apart from the people working or staying long-term at the hostel I got to meet so many other travellers there too. And it was kind of fun to find someone who liked reading books, making sudokus and walking like I do. For a few days it was great to have someone to go for a big walk with and someone whom to show sights of Port Macquarie. I definitely enjoyed the walk in Kooloonbung Creek and along the beaches where we saw big goannas, not forgetting small geckos on pathways and bush turkeys running on the beach.

When I came to Australia my only wish for the journey was to do the open water course. I had done two introductory dives before and had absolutely loved diving so I thought it would be a piece of cake to do the course. But I was so wrong! I was so terrified on our first lesson under the water, and we were just in a pool! :D The first actual dive we did in a river 465 metres above sea level, and it was so much fun! The visibility was great and it made diving interesting when I saw all different kind of fish in the water. And the second dive in the ocean was a lot of fun too. The last dive I did with my instructor Rick and his friend Warwick was in a murky water in a river with tree trunks and branches. It was definitely a new experience, even scary at first because you felt you saw nothing. But you got used to it after a while and I really enjoyed looking for fish under the rocks with a flashlight, though we didin't find many. I must say that Rick was absolutely a great instructor and great to dive with!

This kind of moments are the ones I miss
when I'm away.
I miss all my friends a lot. It's hard to be away from them and not see them because they mean a world to me. Just today I got an email from one of my dearest friends and I got tears into my eyes. Only because her mail showed how much she cares about me and my wellbeing.
I’m sad that I didn’t see my god son learning to walk on his own nor will I see my god daughter learning to speak, or my friends’ other children to grow and learn new things while I’m here. We adults can communicate my emails, text messages and so on, and endure being apart somehow. But children grow so quickly that when you’re not there, they’ve learnt millions of things. I don’t mean we adults wouldn’t have many things going on in our lives, but we are able to tell about them and you don’t necessarily need to be next to each other listening about those things. But when a child learns to walk or wave or remembers a play you had together, there’s no other way to experience it than being there, words are just not enough.




"Life is never easy for those who dream"
- Robert James Waller -

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